Pegging - Revert from the Traditional Erotic
‘The world has always belonged to males, and none of the reasons given for this have ever seemed sufficient.’
– Simone de Beauvoir in The Second Sex (1949)
Patriarchy and hetronormative mindsets do not only showcase in the public domain, but find a reflection in our households, and more importantly, our bedrooms as well. Our expectations that a man should be dominant and women should be submissive in sexual encounters can reinforce patriarchal power imbalance and any sort of ‘social power’ explanations for institutions of sexual domination remains fundamentally flawed and insufficient.
Pegging, as a sexual act, requires us to reverse gender roles and break from the traditional erotic In recent times, pornographic features or even mentioned in shows like ‘Feel Good’ or ‘Sex Education’ have helped to normalize pegging.
What is Pegging?
Pegging is the act that consists of wearing a dildo with a strap-on harness and performing anal sex, helping the woman anally penetrate a man. Even though anyone is welcome to suit up with a strap-on, the term pegging in particular usually refers to a male (penis-bearing person) being penetrated by a female (vagina-bearing person). But there are certain things that you must keep in mind beforehand:
- Establish boundaries and remember that communication is the key before engaging in any sexual activity.
- When using a harness or a dildo, ensure it is the right size.
- Use enough lubrication or lube, as the anus is not a self-lubricating organ.
- The anal and rectal tissues are very fragile and can tear. So make sure to communicate with your partner throughout the entire process.
- Try easing into it with oral or manual stimulation with fingers, then a small butt plug, before a session with a dildo.
- And sorry to remind you, your butt sees a lot, errr….STUFF. So that means you should try to poop before pegging.
- Make sure to wash all your pegging toys and hop into the shower as soon as you are done.
When inserted into his anus, the dildo has the power to reach and massage this walnut-sized gland that sits between the base of a guy’s penis and rectum. The prostate is a super-charged erogenous zone, a.k.a. “the male G-spot.” As with anal play in general, pegging can also stimulate the many erotic nerve endings in the anus and rectum.
Busting the myth:
Even today, Pegging is looked down upon as an anti-masculine act, as it violates the traditional gender script, in which the woman is generally assumed to be the receiving partner, while the man is the inserting partner. Many men have been trained to believe that if they enjoy anal sex they are on a path to homosexuality, even if they have never had sexual desires for men. THIS IS A LIE!
Sexual acts should not be a way to reinforce patriarchy but about the pleasure of both partners. Anal sex is not about sexual orientation but sexual pleasure.
Unfortunately, because anal sex has historically been associated with a “gay men act,” majority of the cis-het men don’t consider pegging. Always remember that how you receive pleasure does not determine your sexuality. The prostate is an erogenous zone that’s often overlooked. Even though prostate stimulation can help you stay harder for longer and increase orgasm intensity by a large margin. Remember that in the end, to have a healthy, consensual sexual relationship, requires communicating with your partner and overcoming challenging societal norms together.
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