Keeping It Alive In A Long Distance Relationship
It is no shocker that long-distance relationships can be hard. Going from routinely seeing each other to primarily communicating online might get frustrating and monotonous to say the least. With access to the internet and mobile applications that allow the exchange of all forms of media and text messages in a jiffy, you bet there are A LOT of things you can do virtually to keep things spicy!
Before getting into it, we would like to give a word of caution. A lot of the suggestions mentioned in this article require consent and a high level of trust and comfort with your partner. Make sure you explicitly talk about what you like, want, and are comfortable with regarding getting sexually intimate virtually. Establish boundaries with your partner and practice safe online sex.
Talk about the transition to phone sex
If you’re new to phone or video sex, it can be a little scary to jump in unprepared. But there is no interpersonal problem that a heartfelt and honest conversation cannot make easier. Express clearly your fears in this regard and assure your partner of any inhibitions that they might have. Ask your partner what they envision your sex life looking like when you are apart. Discuss the strategies you would like to adopt while exploring sexual intimacy virtually.
Don’t shy away from sending flirty texts (even in the middle of the day)
Send each other flirtatious texts with sexual innuendos and suggestive language to keep the fires blazing. Sexy puns also work fairly nicely. Make casual flirting a part of your routine conversations. Remember to flirt with your partner with the same passion as you do at the beginning of a talking stage. This helps you to keep your dynamic fresh and exciting.
Tease with seductive pictures
Exchanging suggestive pictures like post-workout or post-shower shirtless images and teasing each other can be a fairly saucy means of keeping things alive. From revealing and lip-biting selfies to full-length pictures in seductive poses, swapping sexy photos can always be fun.
Read erotic fiction together
This is especially recommended for people new to phone sex. Simply read erotic fiction together until your imagination is sparked. Reading erotica can act as a means to set the mood, familiarise you and your partner with the language used in phone sex, can facilitate comfort, and even allow you to practice reading erotica out loud. There is no dearth of erotica on the internet, so worry not!
Talk about your newly discovered sexual fantasies and make plans to recreate them when you get to meet next
Get your love hormones pumping by sharing with your partner any sexual fantasies or roleplays that you’ve been meaning to recreate with them. Tell your partner what you would do to please them if they were physically present with you at that moment. Talking about the future and making plans together helps you get through the time apart by giving you something to look forward to.
No talk, just spontaneous sexting
Texting your partner something dirty in a conversation out of nowhere is a great way to keep the thrill of sex and that spark in your relationship alive. Something like “I just got out of the shower and couldn’t stop thinking about you” or “I had a sex dream about you last night” can help you build up a titillating sexting session that you just needed. You can go on to describe in detail a heavy foreplay session or relive one of your past intimate experiences. It is no surprise that you can share intensely pleasurable moments even over text. All it takes is imagination and the ability to put your visuals into words, and the possibilities are endless.
Good night- Phone sex- Sweet Dreams
Late night phone sex is a boon for long distance couples. What gives dirty talk on call an edge over text is that you get to hear your partner’s responses in real time, which makes it feel more engaging and also frees up your hands to do other things in that moment! The key here is to build sexual tension and describe in detail a foreplay session. Experimenting with roleplay or integrating phone sex with a background romantic story or setting can be fun too. Remember- breathe heavily, moan and use your sultry voice to seduce your partner further.
Webcam masturbation
A full-fledged session of you and your partner touching yourself and playing with your bodies on a video call can go a long way. It might sound a little absurd and feel a little awkward in the beginning, but once you get past this initial phase of reservation, it is bound to be fun and tantalizing. Start with a little dirty talk and go on to take off your clothes together. Look into each other’s eyes through the webcam and feel the fire. Long slow breaths can go a long way toward igniting the flame. Caress yourself slowly, and don’t forget to make use of your facial expressions.
Shower on video call
An alternative to the commonly done sexting, having virtual shower sex can take your long-distance sex life to the next level! Prop up your smartphone or laptop in a safe place in the bathroom and get to it together. Seeing water dripping down each other’s bodies is going to drive you both wild, to say the least. Especially try this one out if you’ve explored a steamy session in the shower with your partner before and it has worked for you.
Conclusion
As Joe Kort, Ph.D., a sex and relationship therapist, rightly says, “mutual masturbation over video is not only fun, but it can help you view sex in a different way. Touching yourself and having your partner watch is more than a turn-on. It builds trust and closeness, which can improve your relationship as well as your sexual experiences with each other. It can be liberating in a way you never anticipated. It also makes sex more than penetration.”
It is not unknown to us that long-distance relationships can be taxing at times. But even though it can take a bit more time, patience, creativity and somewhat awkward conversations to figure out how to have long-distance sex, it can really do wonders for your relationship.
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